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I'm not sure what it is about 2024 thus far. One thing I know for sure, it is going to be an amazing year full of growth in many areas. I started the year off not knowing where to start with a flight of ideas. The main one is the importance of receiving mental health care, awareness and education. There's a lot of territory to cover here in Georgia. I'm a one woman show, lol, and need an army to be able to accomplish my hopes and dreams for Heal Thy Self Family Services LLC. I'm in the midst of revamping this webpage so that it can be user friendly. I would like for you to be able to get a welcoming, peaceful experience when you reach this page. I'm increasing my reach by applying to be paneled with more insurance companies. It's been a process needless to say. However, the time will come. I'll keep you all posted.

As of late, I've seen a common theme about emotional, and personal growth. Can we talk about boundaries? What are they? How to implement them? Why do others get upset when they are put in place? Why do you feel bad for others when they cannot accept your boundaries? These are all valid questions. There are different ways to look at this. I often in session use the analogy of someone walking by you and stepping on your foot. It hurt you and you told the person who stepped on you that it hurt. The other person may apologize for causing you pain. It doesn't change anything but the acknowledgement feels nice. So this person walks by you another time and steps on you. They apologize but it doesn't feel genuine. The third time this happens, you are aware that this person may step on your foot again, so you move when you see them coming your way. This person may get upset, defensive because you moved. Well excuse me...you will not step on me again. There's nothing to do about how this person feels. You have every right to not want to go through the pain again. There's no love lost. You will just move differently.

The fears of isolation, guilt, contempt, criticism may surface. I encourage you to continue to stand your ground. You matter. Your feelings matter. Your mental health matters. It is time to start honoring and loving yourself. You deserve the love, time, dedication that you give. These small steps will encourage you to continue on this healing journey.

~Damaris, The Healing Therapist

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The holidays are difficult when losing someone. Grief can be isolating. The fact of the matter is that a lot of us don't know how to cope with grief. Some people tend to cry, other people do not talk, some may use distractions to cope, just to name a few. Grief is not a straight path to healing.

The first thing that helps is acknowledging your feelings and emotions. Your feelings and emotions are valid. Allow yourself to feel them. Your feelings and emotions can change from one second to the next. There may be a memory that pops up, a scent, a song, a place. Take it all in. Even if you cry, get angry, experience disbelief.

Try to process your feelings and emotions by talking to a friend, family member, therapist, writing in your journal, prayer, etc. You can also write a letter to the person who is no longer here with you.

Set clear boundaries with family and/or friends regarding the loss when it comes to bringing it up. This can be done prior to meeting with family and/or friends. Remember: if a person gives you pushback when setting a boundary, they are not honoring you, your needs, your feelings.

Lastly, give yourself grace. How? By taking it one day at a time. By understanding that you are human and healing will take time. It is not a sprint, it is a marathon.


~Damaris


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During this month, I will focus on bringing awareness of domestic violence (intimate partner violence) by diving into what it is, how to recognize it, how to get the resources needed to heal.


Intimate Partner Abuse entails any form of verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, financial abuse within a relationship (romantic/platonic).

-Verbal Abuse entails oral (by mouth) gestures such as yelling, cursing (foul language), intimidating, threatening, teasing, mocking, insulting your partner.

-Physical Abuse entails using physical force by hitting with your hand or other body part, pushing, slapping, restraint, strangulation which causes injury or trauma to the other person.

-Emotional Abuse entails name calling, intimidating, threatening, teasing, insulting, belittling, controlling your partner.

-Sexual Abuse entails being forced to engage in sexual acts without consent (rape, sexualized gestures, molestation), sexual exploitation.

-Financial Abuse entails witholding money, depriving of financial means to care for oneself, not being allowed to work, identity theft, abusing credit, not being responsible for bills.


If you or anyone you know has experienced any of the above, feel free to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233). You can also go to their website to chat or text with someone live on their website thehotline.org.


I am available for support with any questions. You can reach me by email at healthyselfds@gmailcom.




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