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During this month, I will focus on bringing awareness of domestic violence (intimate partner violence) by diving into what it is, how to recognize it, how to get the resources needed to heal.

Intimate Partner Abuse entails any form of verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, financial abuse within a relationship (romantic/platonic).

-Verbal Abuse entails oral (by mouth) gestures such as yelling, cursing (foul language), intimidating, threatening, teasing, mocking, insulting your partner.

-Physical Abuse entails using physical force by hitting with your hand or other body part, pushing, slapping, restraint, strangulation which causes injury or trauma to the other person.

-Emotional Abuse entails name calling, intimidating, threatening, teasing, insulting, belittling, controlling your partner.

-Sexual Abuse entails being forced to engage in sexual acts without consent (rape, sexualized gestures, molestation), sexual exploitation.

-Financial Abuse entails witholding money, depriving of financial means to care for oneself, not being allowed to work, identity theft, abusing credit, not being responsible for bills.

If you or anyone you know has experienced any of the above, feel free to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233). You can also go to their website to chat or text with someone live on their website thehotline.org.

I am available for support with any questions. You can reach me by email at healthyselfds@gmailcom.

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It’s so complex. A way to cope with trauma is by identifying your triggers. What makes you jumpy, irritable, anxious? Once, you know what that is, you can focus on how your body feels. Are you safe when feeling all of these emotions? Can we focus on breathing and being present?

What are some ways you deal with trauma?


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